Chatting with a friend somewhat propelled me to write this
article, I had written “I keep dreaming” as my PM(Personal message) on BBM(Blackberry Messenger) yesterday and while we were chatting he made a comment
“Am trying to make your dreams come true” I laughed hysterically after reading it, this was spurred by the memory of the stage play I saw over the weekend “Anatomy of a woman” written by Wole
Oguntokun and directed by Kenneth Uphopho of the Performing Arts Studios https://www.facebook.com/PAWStudios
The play centred on Bolatito, a young single working class lady
who was being wooed by 3 suitors seeking to have her to themselves. She had first,
Muhammed the dreamer, who was hoping to get his dream job some day and for the
time being loafs around living on her bills. Second was Charles, aka Lord of the
rings, a straight faced guy, who’s got a business of his own and doing quite
well too but thinks highly of himself as being the man and finally Chief, her widowed
boss in the office who thinks he could buy love with money and bought her a car
and furnished apartment. But at the end of the day, the only trouble was… What
does she really want?
Back to why I laughed, I simply asked my friend if he knew what
was in my dreams but of course, he does not! I am sorry, I am not being a feminist, a man can only be a part of my dream but not the architect. He should be able to support me in achieving any dream, not building/crafting another that will suit him. We all have our destinies which God
has ordained us to fulfil, let's use it wisely and not let anyone take that
dream from you or better still try to “remix/refine” the dream for you.
At the end of the day, one thing was evident from that stage play, please men do not bug your head sometimes trying to figure out what women really want. A woman is free to choose only that which she wants to choose and different strokes for different folks.
"Don’t chase people. Be yourself, do your own thing and work
hard. The right people-the ones who really belong in your life- will come to
you. And stay" ...Will Smith
