If you cannot make yourself what you would be, how can you expect to have another according to your liking? We would willingly have others perfect, and yet we do not amend our own faults. We would have others strictly corrected but are not willing to be corrected ourselves, the large liberty that others take displeases us; and yet we do not want to be denied anything we ask for. We are willing that others should be bound up by laws, and yet we cannot suffer ourselves to be restrained. Thus it is evident how seldom we weigh our neighbours in the same balance with ourselves. If all were perfect, what then should we have to bear with from others for God's love, this is an excerpt from "Imitation of Christ" by Thomas Kempis.
This is typical of what happens in our world and all around us, like the popular saying it is very easy to see the speck in another's eyes and not see the log in yours, such is life. It is actually a very difficult situation of which I am also guilty of, we never want to let anyone have the same liberty that we possess, jealousy greed and envy at the root of it all. We can claim not to agree with being jealous, envious or greedy but if you can deal with your subconcious thoughts, control and decipher the feelings that come with the actions/words played out, you will find out what I mean. These feelings come naturally but how we each deal with it becomes the major issue, if the feeling overwhelms us we find ourselves getting unhappy, angry when we see others taking too much liberty which we take without batting an eyelid.
A friend shared her experience in her previous place of work, she had a very mean boss who gave queries like it was a response to every good morning you tell her. You cannot get to the office late even when you call in that you are running late but her boss had the liberty to stroll in to the office at her leisure time at times visiting the stylist before coming to work. She screamed and shouted down on everyone in the office except her equal which was rather disgusting. She sits and gives out all the instructions but always insatiable with results, uses the company car(not offical), materials for her personal affairs but you dare repeat similar actions and be a "gunner". I was recently told that almost all her colleagues had left the organisation, and those left are planning to leave before the year ends. The organisation has been known to have a very high staff turnover rate because of the said boss.
This is a typical example of what goes on in our different places of work and in most cases we are helpless and just play along. Our homes, relationships also have a fair share of this.
The question remains: How do we treat people fairly like we want to be treated, without bias, jealousy, envy or greed?
"We must all have charity for all although familarity with all is not expedient, be courteous and friendly but also avoid dangerous familarity... Thomas Kempis.
